Soul strengthening: If you think Jesus is a coddler, that's Paul's jesus, the Christian Jesus, not the one of the four canonical gospels.

Jesus, the person said, I want to follow you but let me first go bury my father. Let the dead bury the dead, Jesus said. Paraphrase

Jesus, I want to follow you, but first let me go say goodbye to my household. Whoever would plow a furrow and First Look backward, is not fit to follow me. Jesus paraphrase

Unless you hate father, mother, son, daughter, your own life, you cannot be my disciple. Jesus. Paraphrase.